A SEVENTEENTH-CENTURY NUN'S PRAYER ON AGING
All the passages below are taken from George Sweeting’s book
“The Joy of Successful Aging” published in 2002.
Lord, Thou knowest better than myself
Know that I am growing older and will someday be old.
Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say
something on every subject and on every occasion.
Release me from the craving to straighten out everybody's affairs.
Make me thoughtful, but not moody; helpful, but not bossy.
With my vast store of wisdom it seems a pity not to use it all,
But Thou knowest, 0 Lord, that I want a few friends at the end.
Keep my mind free from the recital of endless details;
Give me wings to get to the point,
Seal my lips on my aches and pains,
They are increasing, and love of rehearsing
them is becoming sweeter as the days go by.
I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others' pains,
But help me to endure them with patience.
I dare not ask for an improved memory,
But for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness
when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others.
Teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken.
Keep me reasonably sweet; I do not want to be a saint;
Some of them are so hard to live with-
But a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the devil.
Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places,
and talents in unexpected people.
And give me, O Lord, the grace to tell them so.
Saturday, August 31, 2013
A SEVENTEENTH-CENTURY NUN'S PRAYER ON AGING
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
My first, albeit belated, and shared birthday gift from Grandson.
So he didn't buy it.
So he didn't choose it.
So he didn't know he had given me a gift.
But I know, and that's all that matters. Especially to one who has a really serious case of Doting Grandma Syndrome.
Monday, August 26, 2013
Since it was my first attempt at making moon cakes, I decided to play safe and start off with the no-bake version.
I really like this kind of moon cakes but they are so very hard to come by nowadays. Most probably because of the need for refrigeration which leads to higher cost.
Anyway, here is my first batch of moon cakes with two kinds of filling: Lin Yong and Tau Sar.
Next time I've gotta be less heavy handed with the colouring and try to make the skin thinner.
Friday, August 16, 2013
It brought to mind my late mother-in-law's declaration that it is of utmost importance for a person to be able to eat and to walk in old age. Only then would a long life be meaningful.
She used to be a nurse and so she had seen how important it is to be able to eat in order to give one strength and energy to survive...and to walk, which translates to independence.
To live wheel-ey well in your old age you should, for a start, make sure you take good care of your teeth 'cos that will enable you to eat well. That, in turn, will give you the energy to avoid the two sets of wheels found in the bottom centre two squares of the illustration above.
Unfortunately for my MIL, she could not avoid those two sets of wheels but it was not because she did not eat well. Even when she was ill she would force herself to eat in order to have strength for the day but towards the end of her illness, she was not able to walk as a result of a collapsed spinal column due to osteoporosis.
We eventually bought her a wheel-chair but she passed away very soon after. She only used it for a very, very short period of time; barely a month if I am not mistaken. She was an independent and self-reliant person and losing her independence broke her spirit.
Some of us may avoid those two sets of wheels found in the bottom two squares of the illustration above but no one can avoid the last set of wheels; none except those who are ready when Jesus returns for His own.
Monday, August 12, 2013
My only assurance is the presence of God and His promise.
|A word in season|
Sunday, August 11, 2013
We didn't go anywhere at all. Most of my time was spent at home, doing the things that I don't have the time and energy to do on normal days. I can totally understand why people look forward to retirement.
I managed to cook two meals, one a nondescript meal to eat with rice and the other which is spaghetti in beef bolognese sauce. Hubby loved the spaghetti. His only complaint, "Why no cheese?" His absent-minded cook forgot all about the cheese. :(
|Spaghetti in Beef Bolognese Sauce|
And I even drummed up enough enthusiasm to bake a Carrot Walnut Cake with Lemon Cream Cheese Frosting for my birthday. That's my 4th birthday cake this year.
|A healthy cake full of carrots and walnuts and covered |
with the most delicious lemon cream cheese frosting
I love birthdays and birthday cakes. No birthday is complete without a birthday cake and I cannot have enough of birthday cakes. Sometimes I think that I am worse than a kid. Could this be a sign of second childhood?
Anyway, back to my lack of enthusiasm for cooking. It's the thought of waking up early to go to the market before going to the office that is the greatest demotivating factor whenever I start toying with the idea of cooking anything.
And the thought of all the washing up would totally squelch whatever spark of interest that remains. It's not that I don't like to cook. I enjoy cooking but not slogging for two hours or more after a tired day to serve a meal that is eaten in 15 minutes. That doesn't make sense at all and thank God, Hubby understands.
But on holidays I have ample time to go marketing, do all the preparation and cooking as well as the washing up without running out of time or energy. Since it is difficult to cook such small portions for two persons I ended up cooking more and freezing portions for another day. Hah! How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
Best of all, the holidays gave me time to catch up on some posts that are way, way overdue on my blog. Unfortunately some had to be discarded because the event was over and done with so long ago that it had lost much, if not all, of its oomph.
But do you know what was the one thing that made this Raya break extra-special? There was some badminton championship being played out in Guangzhou and so, except for half-a-day that he spent in the office, Hubby the spent the whole Raya break with me at home. I am so happy to have him home with me even though it's badminton that got most of his attention.
See the beautiful cake and how beautifully she has decorated it? My 'Bee may be an amateur but her skill is definitely much better than those people at Secret Recipe, Straits Quay, who almost ruined my birthday cake last year.
They sell cakes and they couldn't even pipe a proper message much less decorate the cake with flowers and leaves. How absurd is that? Is it any wonder that I no longer order my birthday cakes from them?
Yoo hoo! I'm so looking forward to my favourite Macadamia White Chocolate Cake for next year's birthday party.
For the uninitiated, gor-nyior was a term used by my mom (she's Nyonya so I'm assuming that this word is peculiar to the Nyonyas) to describe the way a tired or sleepy child would clamber all over a trusted, significant adult and rub his face against the person. It is an unashamedly uninhibited and absolutely raw demonstration of the child's longing and great need for the love and security that only this one special person can provide. I cannot find an English word to describe this.
Let me show you what it looks like.
Aww, isn't that sweet? Grandson finds mommy absolutely mommy-licious and he simply cannot have enough of her.
In case you ask, you can only see the back of Grandson's head because we have to respect the parents' request not to post his photos on social networks. There are also no exifs here to trace where the photos were taken.
Hmmm, is a blog considered social networking? Especially this half-dead and obscure little blog of mine.
By the time dinner was served there were only praises all round for the food. And when dinner came to a close, there were numerous requests for their business cards.
Oh, and let me also tell you about a terribly embarrassing episode for us. You see, I had already asked for a discount when we ordered the food which they said they cannot give us. So I suggested a free birthday cake instead or free kulfi (Indian ice cream).
|We served the super-indulgent chocolates |
that we received for our 30th wedding anniversary
|The only picture of me cutting my second birthday cake this year. |
What a grainy picture! :(
|So happy with my gift. Thank you Ken Rayians! |
You made my wish come true.
|That's all of us having fun inside...|
|...and, again, outside. Betul kau siao.|
And since we are in a Northern Indian environment, Hubby and I couldn't resist indulging in some Bollywood romance.
Or do you prefer this?
Thursday, August 8, 2013
I think that it was such a splendid idea to just bake the fish in pastry and serve it with the Otak-Otak sauce as accompaniment. The result was fantastic!
The veal was beautifully cooked to perfection and complimented with crunchy bamboo shoots. And the Gado-Gado was superb. These two were the specialty dishes for the night and we had no regrets opting for them over the regular dishes on the menu.
We stuck a candle on the Gula Melaka Mousse and, voila!, it was transformed into my birthday cake.
That's my first birthday party for this year. Looking forward to birthday party no. 2.